WAW...Again, Part II

[stumps]

So at W's request I talked to my IC and asked her if she would be willing to meet with W and I together. IC said she does not do couples counseling per se, but that if we wanted to meet with her for a session or two she would be willing. She did want to know what our intent was and what we hoped to get out of it, and since it was W's suggestion I told her I would talk to W and try to get a fuller/clearer understanding of why she asked me in the first place.

W said she wasn't really sure, in concrete terms, why she made the suggestion. She emphasized that there wasn't anything specific she wanted to discuss, it was just that she felt like, since we were each seeing our own therapists/doing our own "work", it would be good to meet with someone together occasionally just to "check in" and kind of get a lay of the land and see where we are and where we might be headed. W said she suggested seeing my IC together instead of hers because her IC is very "clinical", whereas mine is very holistic/spiritually oriented, and W said that was attractive to her and she wanted to see what it was like (not sure how much of a sense of that she'll get from just a visit or two but...whatever).

At any rate, I got back to my IC and told her what W and I had discussed, and my IC said that was all fine and she would indeed meet with us for a couple of sessions. Both my IC and I are approaching it as "it couldn't hurt (I hope) and it just may help". I figure since it was my W's suggestion, I will let her lead the discussion and see where the conversation goes.

I'm really hoping this helps us both... as individuals and as a couple.

W continues to battle herself... The back-and-forth is almost an amazing thing to watch and experience. Yesterday we had a very nice "patio date". W gave me many hugs, and some nice kisses on the cheek and neck throughout the evening. Nothing crazy passionate, but just...nice. It felt really good. But then this morning she was as cold and distant as ever. I'm just riding it all out, not commenting either way. I believe this is what they call "the rubber band effect"...