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well ive been separated for about three...one thing I can tell you is that before finding this site and the books I had a golden opportunity to salvage my R and I blew it..made huge mistakes. Now she is convinced its over, but for some reason she still talks about me to everyone and gets angry, I take that to mean she is still somewhat connected. the minute I really started my DB journey I have noticed small improvements. That is the key, when you are desperate you over look them. You expect it to go from its over to I love you lets get back in a flick. When you communicate about the kids be cool and calm and confident in yourself. Let him see a women who is not afraid of living her life without him. Whatever you do no matter how hard..do not ask about your relationship and do not tell him you love him again!!!! he knows you do. Read sandis 37 rules and follow them, this is going to be a rollercoaster from hell, but we are here for support. pop over to my page and read my story, check out all the other ones, I find great advice there.