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[Train]

I haven't shared an update recently. And H and I are still in the beginning stages of piecing. But I see how confusing it all seems.

After H's first A in 2005, we did it ALL wrong; it was allllll "honeymoon period," with no tough work. This time, we are putting in the work ... and it IS difficult. But it's also very enlightening and rewarding.

I think the main ingredient for a success story is having two people who BOTH agree to make changes in themselves and their relationship. I've done A LOT of "going-outside-my-comfort-zone" (re: being my H's "recreational partner"), and he is meeting MY needs like never before by actually spending time TALKING and listening. He is religiously taking me out at least once a week and even insisting on us meeting outside for at least 20 minutes every afternoon once he's home from work, just so we can talk about our day.

"His Needs, Her Needs," following the advice/support I received here and in DR for re-attracting my H by creating changes in ME, can likely be credited for saving my M and family.

I'll post more later on an update. (And, yes, I'm still in the infant stages, so I don't yet call myself a "success story".) But I'm still here, reading all the time, and can answer any questions from my own experience, mdu.