There is nothing to be gained except irritating him, and surely it will. Or at least confuse him about what you mean or want.
Why not give yourself a divorce card--and a big slice of pie a la mode to go with it.
You deserve it.
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
Although my tall dark and handsome boyfriend keeps saying he wants to send my ex a thank you card, since we would never have met if my ex hadn't run off! lol
Lol kml that's very funny! With my impending divorce about two months ago I felt inclined to do the same. Its mainly due to the fact I still felt like I wanted one last chance where he read the card and was like you know what wife you're right divorce isn't the answer lets try to work this out because somewhere deep in my black heart I still love you. But now I'm at the point where I'm actually starting to feel sorry for him and I feel I should live my life and be with someone who appreciates and treasures my love. Well I've had over a year to process these emotions you only have had two months since the divorce was filed?! That's insane. If it helps just write a letter to him and then throw it away. It sounds stupid but it works for me.
Thank you for your input, whatitis. It is so hard to not even say goodbye. But I know sending card would only make me feel good, not him, so I will resist sending.
M 56 H 52 M 13.5 T 15 S 28 twinStep Ds 24 ILYBNILWY BD 1/5/14 OW 4/11/14 Divorce petition efiled 5/5/14 Divorce final 7/8/14
Lostinpain, I don't know how I'm just now seeing your post from days ago. I may feel like you did 2 months ago, and hope for a miracle that his black heart might reconsider, but I'm not sure what my motive really is....is that strange? Intellectually, I know it probably would irritate the heck out of him. Maybe I need to search myself better to know what my real motive is to want to send a D card. Morbidness? Rub it in I can be better than you are-ness? Drama? It bothers me that I dont know my motive. Yikes.
M 56 H 52 M 13.5 T 15 S 28 twinStep Ds 24 ILYBNILWY BD 1/5/14 OW 4/11/14 Divorce petition efiled 5/5/14 Divorce final 7/8/14
Well, honestly I WOULD want him to reconsider D before Ddate and WOULD take him back (with conditions that he have IC and we have MC and go through alot of work).
M 56 H 52 M 13.5 T 15 S 28 twinStep Ds 24 ILYBNILWY BD 1/5/14 OW 4/11/14 Divorce petition efiled 5/5/14 Divorce final 7/8/14
