BrooklynMom thanks for the advice and kind words. I have to say the only reason I'm able to be as composed as I am is because I identified what I think is "wrong with him" early on. It also helps in a weird way that the OW is so below me. My brotherinlaws and fatherinlaw know her because of the family business and they initially refused to believe any of it because they said there was no way my H would be into her. Supposedly she is extremely immature and irritating and not attractive at all. They can't imagine what he would want with her and how he could even talk to her no less have a relationship with her. Don't get me wrong, after the initial BD I was a complete mess but I have to say I kept it from the beginning to myself. I still haven't pleaded, begged or been hysterical for him not to leave us. I've always been rational and not really driven by emotion so I guess in this situation that helps. That's not to say I haven't had my break downs, trust me I go on week long crying bends (like last week) at work, in the car, at night, just not in front of him. I'm really trying hard to stay strong for myself and especially for my babies.
Me: 35, H: 36, M: 6, S: 1, D: 3, BD: 4/21/14 H still living at home
