Possilble WAW

[PeterV2]

Now my question is this , did she get up and make me breakfast because she felt so guilty about being with him last eve or did she appreciate the loving husband who trusted her to work late and not accuse her of anything ??

It was the loving, trusting, non-accusing husband. If you hadn't bitten your tongue last night and accused her of infidelity I can assure you that you would have been making your own breakfast this morning. Maybe she did work late. Maybe she saw OM. It doesn't matter. What matters is that you control yourself and be that loving, non-accusing husband (I left out the trusting because that's not really part of the equation here). You cannot control what she does. You can only control yourself and even that is a challenge - work on that.
See, it does work. React to her the opposite of what she expects and counter-intuitively. That's DBing.

By the way, you can see a lot of Michelle Wiener-Davis' talks on YouTube. Check out the one on WAWs. That was an eye opener for me. I even showed that one to my WAW early on (big mistake - she dismissed it as BS). So for your eyes only.

Keep it up. You're getting the hang of it. Don't worry about any deadlines. This is a marathon, not a sprint.