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the only way to do this is to completely change the way you handle this..I know it sounds hard but you have to give him what he wants. See right now he knows you are there, its not a challenge to him, it doesn't feel new. If you completely do a 180 on the way you have been handling it he will be wondering if you moved on as well...easier said than done, trust me I know. My wife is saying the same crap. She just wants to be friends...but everytime i do my own thing and not call or text her and keep things polite but short (indifference) she begins to pull in...im here for ya, we are all in it together.