He has backpeddled, wants to work on the marraige, doesn't want to move or D but...I'm the only one who needs to change?
We can't seem to get along. I'm getting to the point of being done. One person can't work on something and fix the entire problem. He's still in the "junkie" mindset of "I don't have a problem." Supposedly going to counseling July 2, but told me that I'm still the issue and if I would just stop being a b***h, then we wouldn't have ANY problems. NONE.
I've withdrawn from him a lot. I am meeting with my atty today to see where I would go from here if pushing forward. I have not called Laurie to do any DB coaching, because I'm not really sure I don't want a D. There are many more people out there, and I know there has to be one who will treat me better.
I wanted to save this at first, but now I'm leaning more to ending it and walking away, even if he wants to save it. He's back to "forgetting" to pay bills, but he managed to pay for all his world cup related expenses. I've reminded him 3 times about his bills, as I get the reminders. Now, I no longer remind him when his bills are due. There are plenty of e-mails, text messages etc. telling him what is owed and when it is due. He owes me about $1000 right now for home insurance, half of bills for June and half of medical expenses for our daughter. He owes about that much on his past due bills. Yet he managed to pay to have his passport expedited, $190 for a tourist visa, etc. etc.
There are guys interested in me, but I have not reciprocated my thoughts to them, even though I am curious about them.
I think I'm also beginning to understand what a WAW is thinking when she leaves.
I have made a lot of progress with regards to my anger management. He has made none towards his, and won't find another counselor who can see him sooner, nor will he see mine. They are all "against" him already because supposedly I've lied to them about him, so they are carrying around some sort of prejudice.
I have no sanctuary in my home. He's always there. I can only hope that he wants to go somewhere else sometime soon, so that I can have the house to myself, invite friends over to hang out and just relax.
Me- 29 H - 36 T - 5y M - 2y D - 11 months BD#1 June 2013 BD#2 H files 10/28/13 Retrouvaille Nov 13 BD #3 H Files 2nd time 4/22/14 Fires L 7 days later. No court dates set Supposedly he's moving out?
