My H's MLC

[GoatGal]

When I say "returns home" I mean in the sense that he, as a whole person, returns home with his heart and mind, not just his body.

For me, having "just" his body here while his mind and heart were elsewhere was just too hard for me to handle.

But Michelle and others say that it's a lot easier to work on the R via DBing techniques when they're in the home.

Though sometimes a "cooling off" period might be called for if you can't keep a handle on your emotions and end up having negative interactions with him.

The goal is, keep your interactions as POSITIVE as you can with him.

This doesn't mean you condone what he's doing, but you do validate his feelings.
Then you state your boundaries.

All the vets on here can help you with that since it's probably something you're going to have to get on track with pretty rapidly, but that's good because it will give you a focus on something other than him and the wrecking ball he's slinging around.

--GG