Hi I'm new, I hope I won't be a burden... prt 3

[nit84]

1Wish,

Please if you really feel the way you say above PLEASE go and seek Counseling or Medical Treatment!!

If those are words of frustration then stop feeling sorry for yourself.

We all made plans to M once, for a number of reasons it doesn't always work that way.

Your W has told you in different ways that right now she is not in love with you.

You need to listen to her when she says things it is one of the first ways to begin the process.

There is no quick fix!!

I was the same way as you when my sitch started but I made a decision that I was going to stand for my M and was going to do everything possible to make it happen.


I am a year in to DB, I can't say it has gotten any easier but I have done a lot of reflection and looking in the mirror. Even if my M can't be saved I always knew I would survive without my W if she decided to leave. It looks like that is happening still. I just needed to reassure myself.

I hold out hope and always will until I CHOOSE not too. I have the power to do that because I CONTROL my feelings nobody else, not my family, friends or especially my WAW!!

I, by no means am a veteran or do I claim to give the best advice but by doing some of the things that have been relayed to me from people on this site. It has given me my best chance at R. It may take years if it happens at all but at least I know I am giving it my best shot.

I seek all the opinions and help I can get from anybody on here that is kind enough to take time to catch up with my thread.

Go back and read my thread or others there are plenty of success stories to lean on it is what I did and it helped ME immensely.

We all want to see yours and everybody elses sitch turn out for the best. Whatever the "best" is.

You will get hit with 2 x 4's when needed, You can choose to listen or not.

Also. read Sandi's rules they do help.