Yesterday at work, I was told I should start looking for another job. The last car I worked on looks pretty bad by our standards. I started the project the same week I found out about the A.
That said, I had a really good IC meeting in the afternoon. We were working on solutions to my reactions. I came away from the meeting with some solid practices to the way I react to people around me.
That didn't last long unfortunately. W had taken the boys to her sister's for the night which meant my mom was home. She had just received a couple of troubling phone calls from W. Turns out that W really did believe that I would steal her money as she was told, so she closed our former joint account and opened an new one. So, now she had no debit card. When she took one child shopping for snacks for the night, she tried to use one of my credit cards. The week I split from the joint bank, I also closed the two cards that were in my name for the sake of getting out of debt ASAP. I never thought she would still use the accounts. Well, she called mom at first crying. She was scared and didn't know what to do. Mom offered to drive part way there and giver her cash; W refused. W called back again yelling and mad. She said I did this on purpose just to hurt her and embarrass her. Hearing this made me very angry. I started yelling (to no one but mom was there) about the sitch. Back to my old ways.'
Sent BIL a text as he always calms me down. He asked if I apologized to W. Told him I'd gone dark. He asked said it would be good to offer to help. So, I left W a VM on her cell to call me if she needed cash (not that I have a whole lot). She called back a bit later to say no, that she borrowed from S16. Then we went on talking about her car not passing inspection and how to buy tires. Gave her advice. She was crying for most of the conversation. I made a mistake as said this all could have been different. She stopped crying now. Said we need to talk to pastor about what to tell be boys (about A and D). At that I ended the conversation because I did not want to get into a discussion about our R or our D. Yes I know I started it with my comment.
Lets see what today brings. Heading to work. Got an early appointment with pastor. Later I'd go to my DivorceCare group.
