"Man The F*** Up" The Ultimate 180

[RedHawk98]

Thank you also for your advice.
You don't have to do all this, your marriage is restored.
So I really appreciate your point of view and refusal to sugar coat things.

I meant to add that, in the last week or so I am feeling more calm than I have in a year. I've noticed that I'm actually laughing and having fun again.
A few hours come at a time when I feel sad still. I expect that.

You'll be relieved to know that the idea of any sort of pursuing makes me uneasy now.
I can see what that looks like now and it makes me feel embarrassed.
I never did have to pursue her in the beginning, we just fell in love with day to day contact.

She does have an appalling memory, and is usually a positive person, so here's hoping that now I know how to prevent further damage, we may be able to talk in the future.