Labug, I read your post several times and cried each time. It all sounded so familiar. I want to respond more fully but I can't seem to get my thoughts in order so I'm going to sit on it for another day till I can get the pieces to fall into place.
In the meantime... H is kind of reaching out to me, ish. I'm struggling with how to respond to him. I am conflicted between maintaining my detachment and dimness, which I find helpful, and being friendly enough -- especially since I want to draw a boundary while I don't know his feelings for OW. Suggestions are welcome.
He hasn't actually said he wants a divorce. He just said he needed space and time to figure out what he wants. And then signed a big expensive lease and plans on spending a ton of money on furniture. And felt like the "friendship" with OW (who lives overseas) was too important to abandon.
I don't know how to conduct myself with him.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
