MrBond, in reading through old threads with advice about piecing I've found advice like this, which is very explicitly different from DBing:

"The challenge about Piecing is (and I think credit goes to ol' Jack Three Beans on this one) that nearly the entire skillset that was required to DB (and especially if there was infidelity involved) . . . is not only NOT applicable in Piecing, it's actually nearly the OPPOSITE of what's called for!!!

"Filling their love bank" and "speaking their love language," while there is OM/OW contact, is "pursuing." When you're piecing, it's REQUIRED, and you gotta have the patience of Job with it. That's just one example -- there are many, many more.

In general, most people when dealing with affairs are too EASY; and when piecing are too HARDAZZ.

Starsky"

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14