Divorced and still bitter!!

[25yearsmlc]

Going from bitterness to being disgusted. Found out from s that this past weekend s and his mother went to a weekend event out if town. Quite a few hours away. Come to find out her friend drive them up and back. Yes we are divorced but apparently what our co parenting therapist told us about having certain friends around and the affect on our s doesn't seem to phase this woman. I am disgusted.

When did your therapist tell your wife not to introduce her son to OM?

I mean, it's been a few years now...so when would you think it's okay for your wife to introduce OM to your son? And is it at least possible that hiding OM from son, also does damage? It can't help her r with Son...in most WAS's eyes, once they inform you of OP, they are "Free" to do as they please. Surely with the divorce filed, 95% feel that way and with the divorce FINALIZED the fact is, you have no choice here and no legal right to object.

What are you doing with yourself these days? You need to detach a lot more and that always requires GAL, which is hard when you are becoming bitter.

Pardon the cliche but this is about what you want to become, a bItter man or a bEtter man?

Not angry but disgusted. Yea she was seeing this guy behind my back for over 2 years and having confronting her that I knew , but , come on. Does she really have to throw this in my face. She knows s will tell me.

so, really, you would prefer if she kept sneaking around and hiding the R from your son? How does that help your son? Or is this mostly (all) about you? I'm sorry if that hurts to read but I just see wounded ego all over this. I don't know what "throwing it in my face" means...of course at some point, son will meet a man she is dating. If she marries OM, is that also throwing it in your face? I'm being sincere...

You have to GAL man...really. It's over. SOME couples remarry later, (I've heard it's about 15%) but I can't imagine it happening with how you are kind of stuck...

And to top it off she text me a pic of our s over the weekend saying he is having fun. It's still all about her.


No it's not. You are spiraling negatively now. Like a swirling vortex...b/c she sent you a picture of your SON having fun, not her. It was a gesture of kindness to the co-parent. NOT an act of vengeance.. if that is too much for you to handle, tell her you don't want to hear or see anything about your son while SHE has him...will that be better for you?

Would you prefer if you knew she was moping and depressed and around your son? Think about how you are spinning what she does....it's all bad no matter what or how much time has passed...


I feel sorry for her and other people that think like this. They have a problem. Don't send me a pic of our s when her friend is around.

Come on, you're better than this. Let it go. Let HER go. Let the past go...

enjoy your time with your son and GAL so you can detach and be happy so he can see both his parents moving forward in life.

He'll face his own setback some day...show him how a man of strength and honor moves on in life, and adapts and creates his own happiness and new, better life.