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[Barrybran]

Another eight days since an update. It's been a different week here with a little more action in my world. I started my university orientation this week and I'll begin going over coursework in preparation for the start of lectures next week. The local soccer team is also desperate for players and I've put my hand up seeing as it fits in with my schedule. I'm still recovering from the flu but I've been able to work this past week which has been good for me and my hip pocket.

On the wife front, things are progressing slowly. We've spent more time together as a family rather than in separate living areas. Still doing our own things but I'm on hand if she has a thought or question. We booked our flights for the wedding next year and we're looking at accommodation to cover all scenarios. She is speaking about family issues from a "we" perspective rather than an "I/you" manner. This includes finances which has been a hot topic this week with the wedding as well as impending legal costs for D4 and our cars.

This morning, W asked if we got back together whether a baby was on the cards. I told her that prior to our separation, I didn't value her thoughts and feelings and that I brushed aside what she wanted (car and baby) because I felt they would cripple us. I told her that I should have worked from an "how can we make this work" perspective rather than shutting her down. I also said I'm working from the perspective that if we got back together that baby number four is inevitable. She's making no promises and any baby is a while of yet. Prior to this mornings conversation she has discussed baby names and birth control with me. So she appears to be working through things in her mind at the moment.

Still no physical intimacy though we have been physically closer recently, not touching but in each other's space without awkwardness, and there has been a lot of communication and teamwork with some smiles and laughs along the way.

I bought her flowers a couple of days ago which she hasn't acknowledged. No biggie there as I bought them to cheer her up after some rough news. Not quite DB-friendly but my intentions were pure and my conscience was clear. And a couple of dollars go to the Heart Foundation so it's a bonus.

All in all I'm feeling good. A little overwhelmed by what lies ahead with uni but good. I have really wanted to hug my wife a couple of times this week with some of the things that have popped up but I've kept myself in check and dealt with any negative feelings on my own. I'm looking forward to uni and soccer and I'll keep organising our trip next year as well.