Actually, on a second reading, there's something else that you might want to consider.

The spiritual guidance, faith and IC. If they're actually helping you be happier in yourself, that's fine and good.
But don't let them get too deep.

I say this, because I saw a therapist on one occaision who tried to tell me I had PTSD from a previous relationship and various other issues.

I thought about that and wondered if it did more harm than good. I was just having a tough time. I didn't actually have all these issues.

That was time I could have been spending seeing things from my wife's perspective


Suspected EA: Feb 2013
Bomb drop: Mid March 2013
Separation: Mid April 2013
(I fought for marriage)
Filed for Divorce: April 2014
Accidental Exposure of affair: June 2014