I think most of us get weary of always being perfect in every interaction while our S are all over the map. I find it exhausting, especially with my challenges, so it's best if he's not in my face all the time. I couldn't do it 100% of the time. No way.
Sometimes I feel like I'm in the ring with Mike Tyson and he's about to bite my ear off.... something will come out of H's mouth that is SO TOTALLY UNEXPECTED... I hadn't worked it into my "Script of Possibilities" and I'm at a loss. ------------------------------------
This is still very fresh for you and your buttons are going to be easily pushed.
Don't sweat it too much, she wants this, right? You're "facilitating" her desire to be on her own. Heck, you're even moving out, right?
So, she can't expect you to be Mr. Perfect every moment; keeping your PMA and STFU and GAL and LTF going every minute.
Only WE can expect that!!!
Seriously. I've said stuff to my H that, as much as a d*ck he's been over the last 18 months, I'm surprised he's talking to me at all. It's the overall interactions that tell the tale, I think.
Figure you'll be coming in at about 80%... that percentage of positives should outweigh a few boo-boos. Find an average guy who can compare to THOSE stats of great supportive attitude, wonderful listening skills, and all the other great stuff you're doing. (Right?)
Meanwhile, rehearse the "Hold on a sec, I have to talk to a man about a horse" ruse and take five in the can....
Get your composure and go back and show her Superman. Or Batman. Or whoever... At least those guys can pack boxes really fast.
---GG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
