Sex was great, part 2

[MrBond]

"I don't put all my self-worth into sex. I just know (and knew) it is important to me. "

Yes you do put all your self-worth into sex. If you feel "alone" just for not having sex for a couple of weeks, then they are tied together.

"If I don't have sex more than a sexless marriage, I don't understand why Michele would write a book about dealing with it. I won't stay in a sexless marriage forever, if that helps. "

Wow you totally missed the point of my post and others'. You don't have a sexless M. You have a W that's sick right now but you can't seem to get that right now.

"You're right----it is too important to my well being and esteem and life is just too damn short. How long will I wait? 1 year? 4 years?"

You've been without it for a couple of weeks.

"I'm going to at least wait until she tries something new or tries counseling or anything to show me that she's trying, but I AM patient,"

Reading your posts, it's so obvious you're not.

"the problem is I keep telling myself not to feel hurt by her when I truly feel hurt and alone and can't help it."

Yes you CAN help it. That hurt that you feel? It's self-inflicted.

"You can't do that for years without changing completely. If that's the case, I'd like if she changed so she didn't need me to do the lawn anymore. That would be nice."

So you're comparing her sickness with a chore of not having to do the lawn any more. Nice.

"I'm going to read the book again. It feels like I'm being told I don't belong in a marriage because of how I feel sometimes instead of how I act to my wife all the time."

You keep saying you've "changed" but I'm not quite sure what you actually changed. She just needs compassion and understanding which you seem incapable of giving because of the thing between your legs.