Sex was great, part 2

[MrBond]

"This is the part that bothers me. Nobody is listening to that part. I work on her needs. I do. Her needs are met. She IS happy. I HAVE changed. I was good before, now I'm even better AND I don't bring up my needs, no matter how bad they hurt. "

Everyone is listening. You're not understanding what people are telling you. There wasn't a "problem" in your M . This is what M is like. You're going to have highs and lows. You as well as her. You have to have the PATIENCE to see how things go and act accordingly. It's great that she's happy. All that changing you're doing should be for you and not for her. If they make your life better, then great. But don't keep "expecting" that if you do 'A', that 'B' is going to happen. It's not what life is all about.

Your W has health issues. That's her number one concern. For an extreme example, what if you had cancer. Would that be top of your mind or would sex? You say you get frustrated because YOU FEEL she should do this and that. But the fact is that you ARE NOT the sick one. It's easy for you to make it sound so simple, but it isn't for her.

"When I'm up at night and all of a sudden I feel alone, what would you suggest I should do?"

Grow up and discover what M is all about. If you put all of your self-worth into sex and that if you don't have it for a couple of weeks, you "feel alone", then M isn't for you.

If you feel the need to do something, then talk to her about it without sounding needy. Tell her how you feel and come up with a compromise that both of you are comfortable with. That's how mature, adult M'd people act.