Whoa, we're getting a clipboard AND abacus out? Count me in!
Mach, I really liked what you said - "Typically, when the MLCer returns, the LBS is light years ahead of them in terms of relationship skills....
What YOU might view as being a lame attempt...
SHE might be sayin..
I'm given 'er all shes got Cap'n !!!
I would suggest that you think about what that might look like for YOU too..
What signs, tell you that she is trying...
What signs, tell you what YOU need to see, and know
What does a reconciled Marriage look like to you ????"
T, you are worth the effort. We know it. Mach would even almost switch teams for you - LOL!
The thing is...what I've been personally seeing... Is that the MLCer's mind is still in such chaos on the way out of the tunnel. They don't know what to trust, everything they "thought" they knew for sure (we're evil, their life is the worst, they can find happiness with OP, etc) is now in question.
Simply put... They don't know what the hell to think.
So while I believe there will come a time when they will need to prove their commitment to us and the marriage if there's any real chance of rebuilding, I think it's something that evolves slowly. They need to be sure they can trust us first - and I can only imagine how difficult that must be.
Drink some more coffee T, mull everything over in your T brain. You've done the work, being the best T you can be, but MLC seems to take FOREVER...
Good thing time is on our side, right?
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
