I will say this as plainly as I can and this will be the ONLY time I say this.
STOP OBSESSING ABOUT A POSSIBLE AFFAIR!
"When you say very obvious do you mean that she is cheating?"
No I mean it's obvious that if she ends up having an A that it is your fault. Your insecurities are pushing her to another man who is more stable. It was OBVIOUS because she was driven to get advice from the married guy because he's stable unlike you. And let me stress that...she was only getting ADVICE and that it wasn't an A. You just couldn't even handle that.
"As ive heard that if a spouse is cheating there is nothing you can do until the affair ends which it does after the honeymoon period. But I wouldnt want to be with someone thats had an affair.. do it once you can do it over and over again.."
That's total nonsense. Right now I don't have respect for you same as your W because you won't read the book, won't go to meditation to quiet your mind and are acting like an immature, insecure child. Simple as that.
"Yes if there is infidelity then yes it is my fault due to the neglection and annoying behaviour but are you referring to obvious as she IS having an affair?"
Why do you keep asking?! And I say it again, I think it might be good for her to actually get an affair because it might help you grow up.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
