Matt is correct. ...Due to the fact of 20 years I did not know how to respond it react in this case. My dd feels that he was playing a game. Not that I am not concerned about her. If course I am. This is the age of instant texting. Waiting in the hospital for hours, I am certain there was a moment to update me. I think he was pissed yet again that he was being responsible while I was out having fun. Not replying to me was likely punishment (same behaviour he always has). This is yet another occurance that I had fun and he did not. While speaking with him today he indicated that his mom will require more of his attention and he will require me to sell more product. If I had applied my old behaviour, I would have been pissy and asked why he didn't text me last night. His bs reply would have been that he didn't want to disturb my concert. (Have heard this before, it means he's pusses I'm having fun). He does not take the time to have fun, feels an imbalance of partnership. Gets angry that he doesn't have a life. Then I feel guilty and try to compensate/fix/pretzel and accommodate.
Matt is correct, I was searching what my position is now when it comes to family. Yes. I can have my own r with his mom on our terms. We are just starting to work on that. My confusion was him and his expectation vs mine. I did not fully respond the way he wanted with 100 questions. So when he called today, we discussed work and then I enquired. Then got the whole story.
Just now he seems a little more interested on behaving in a personal way by texting and calling from the hospital (appt with specialist) and asking if I could maybe pick her up while he pick up another vehicle for client at 5 pm.
Please show me where/how to be business mm vs personal here. Thanks!!!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
