Hi MM, I understand that you are surprised by his not keeping you informed as the last 20 years you would have been a big part of all this. You're NOT anymore. That is part of what comes with no longer being together. If you still want to have a relationship with exMIL (I still have one with mine) that's great. But it's not through him now. You can keep in touch with her all on your own. These are the changes that come with the new reality. You didn't choose to end things, he made that choice for you. It's going to be up to you now to keep in touch with any of the people from your old life that you still want in your new. I take it she is your D's grandmother? Then you will be seeing her and a part of her life BF still there or not.
This is just the start of the changes you are going to find come with this new life. Try and think about the other people and how they feel as well. I'm sure your BF's mom is upset that you aren't together anymore. D and break up's affect everyone in our lives. My W's family is very upset about what my W is doing. They hurt as well.
These are the things that the MLCers in our lives are going to need to deal with all on their own. They will see just how much it [censored] when you don't have that other person in their lives that was always there for them in the past. Part of both their journey AND ours!
