Sorry, but "dirty clothes on the floor or counter" doesn't qualify as a major love language, or even a "need."
I didn't say it did.
What I said was I can't TALK to her about it without it becoming "pressure."
And no, I'm not needy. If anything, she is. And I don't mind giving her what she needs------in fact, I enjoy it.
But what if what she needed was what I'm here for? Am I still the jerk? That's all it feels like-------I FEEL upset and alone, and all I hear is "wait six months." I don't think just because anyone has been in a "worse" situation means I have to purposely put myself in that position before it's ok to feel things I can't help feeling.
