Just some random thoughts, thinking about all this....
IF she wants back in, these are the questions I want answered:
What has changed that brought about this desire?
Why do you want me to be a part of your life again?
Why do you think I should allow you back as a part of my life?
What steps are you going to take to make yourself better?
What steps are you going to take to make our relationship better?
What are some things you can do to show that I can trust this?
What are some things we can do to keep the R safe?
I don't want the kids and I to have to go through a second leaving, if at all possible. No free pass, she has to want "me" in addition to the kids and lifestyle. I have peace, order, decisiveness on my own which is good for me, and my kids, we are happy, they comment on the consistency. I'm not willing to "give" that away.
If she wants out, or wants back in for the wrong reasons, then I will let her go walk her path, the story line splits and diverges, no anger, no retribution. Just a D and ending done with Class, Honor and Dignity, on my side at least.
Need more coffee...
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
