"Man The F*** Up" The Ultimate 180

[RedHawk98]

It would mean the world to me if my wife and I could sit down and see eye to eye on our marriage.
I know the reasons why she's reluctant.

When you say "Do you want to be right or happy?" I couldn't agree more.
Hurt has made me want to be right. Hurt has also stopped me being happy.
I see all the hurt and angry folk being righteous and angry on the boards.
Do I want to be like that?
No.
It's just not me.

To be honest, all that righteousness and anger has made me look like my mother. A person who, with the best of intentions, likes to involve herself in everyone's lives. My marriage too.
My wife does hold a lot of resentment towards her for that.

She tearfully said once "I just wanted you to be yourself".
That meant not angry and stressed all the time, strong enough to take whatever life threw at me, and be someone she could lean on too.

I'm sorry I got defensive with you earlier when you tried to help.
Thanks man.