Hurt and Confussed

[T-boned]

I have to disagree with Ben's suggested response, "well it has been kind of refreshing." Those sound like words of triumph or something. Like its rewarding to be away from them. Or that you got one over on her.

IMHO, I like the tack you are taking, the listening and the calm voice. Way to approach her at this point I think. She was probably a bit upset to hear about the lay-off - I'd not guess rage, but I wasn't there to see her face. I'd bet on serious disappointment, maybe, because she could have been hoping to get some financial aid in the settlement. Plus it's always a little unsettling. Do you make more than her? Then there's the kids, you'd probably have to give her something every month to help with them unless you get 50/50 custody? I don't know about that stuff.

My H and I didn't have kids - one of the sticking points in our marriage, but one thing I had a plan for right before, and I mean days before he left.

I like the change I think I'm hearing in your words. As the saying goes, "Keep calm and carry on."

Also, again, be the man she would be STUPID to let get away. I think you may be starting that.

Go surf...