WAW separation begins

[rayzzz]

Thanks Thornton,

Upon further reflection I have set some 180 goals for this week:
to do this lovingly, quietly and confidently.

The old me would have freaked out and either been angry, stressed out, bitter or begging, crying, pleading, shaming and manipulating. I would have liked nothing better than to make my WAW's life hell and let her pay for this.

But the truth is? I like the new me. Its only been in existence for two months...and is still forming but I have learned I have a lot more control over my feelings and I have learned from this db community that you can rise above your carnal reactive nature and operate from a more satisfying healthier place.

Case in point, WAW came home with empty boxes totally stressed out and barked at me that I wasn't letting her know what was going into what box..blah blah.

I took a deep breath...sat down and instead of dragging her into a fight calmly said in a quiet voice" ok I understand its alot, I need to go out to my meeting but lets talk and sort this out "

pretty amazed at myself. So now just another four days to go but I feel calmer having these goals.