I am no expert but friends that think you are weak are not friends. Your friends should be supportive of what makes YOU happy whatever that may be. Friends and family want us to stop hurting so they will say whatever they think that will do just that. It is very easy for people to cast judgment on what they would do in any situation until they've actually been in it.
I'm no vet but you're doing great. Keep detaching. Be happy that every conversation has been pleasant. It keeps her mind on positives during that time. And ya you're having a problem with it - you didn't see it coming. I totally feel you there. I am a pretty good people reader and considered myself to know My H very well. While I'm not saying he was jumping with joy and excitement - I never in a million years saw this coming or I would have started seeking counseling immediately. So I definitely understand
