She may very likely stay gone, and I think you should make her stay gone and count yourself lucky when its all said and done. I know that's counter to the board's mission. I do. But unless she changes in a massive way, you were bound to a woman that was going to make your life HE**.
I know this isn't what you want to hear, but I agree with AJ. I'm in the same cesspool when it comes to a spouse requiring a major and unlikely OVERHAUL.
Life can be good again. Really.
Recovery takes time. I'm nearly 2.5 years into this journey. And, I'd be lying by saying this easy, but I'm finding my way. I'm seeing the different blessings that came with my H leaving. He is a very broken person.
There were good times in our marriage, but he was always broken. His issues were always just under the surface, brewing. And, while living together, I was always dealing with the fear of his leaving.
For years, I prayed for help in becoming financially independent. I prayed for help in becoming this woman I am now forced to become.
God answered my prayers and has more faith in me than I have had in myself. He just went about answering my prayers in a way that I didn't expect. I'm not sure I could have become the person I'm meant to be within my marriage...the mother I'm meant to be. My spouse's leaving may turn out to be the nicest thing he ever did for me.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
