Continuing my DB journey part 3

[Georgiabelle]

Unfortunately, there are some parents who genuinely try to alienate the kids from the other parent. That is horrible and IMHO, detrimental to the kids. How very sad and painful for the kids. However, there are also uninvolved, lazy parents who use the "x is turning the kids against me" as an excuse to not be a parent. Can't control that.

Focus on making yourself better. What do you want for your boys? Your h will decide what is important to him. I reminded my h for 6 months when a vacation was. This was planned by my D9. He had not moved out and it coincided with Father's Day. H finally said, " I won't have a pic to tweet on Father's Day." Internally I had so much running thru my mind, and I did not take the bait. I just said, "I'm sorry. The trip has been planned for months and had no idea when Father's Day was." This week, h had to work on Sunday. He did.. He picked his gf up from the airport because she left her internship early because she could not *stand to be apart from him*. And I cannot do anything about it. I actually shrugged and stifled a chuckle. I know how very difficult it is to watch your kids struggle with their world being turned upside down. It just flat out s?cks.

Focus on building the life that you want. Become the person you want to be. Your h can never get this time back with his boys. Let him be. You can do this!