I think you are on to something here. I know I am angry because I have raised my kids with strong family values. one for all and all for one. A unit. When XH left, no one was prepared for this. Many of my teaching went out the windows and destroyed ( with justification? ). One of their role-model suddenly disagreed with everything they know to be right or wrong. That is where the confusion is. I know as they grow older, they will see but right now, it is a constant struggle.
like bea, I need him to leave me alone in order to stay strong. I wish he would also leave the kids alone so that they would be healthier emotionally. ( talking by comparing D18 who has barely contact with him and is doing amazing and the other 3 who have ups and downs ).
I must say that I also believe our kids will learn from this and become better adult because they lived this.
