Old dog seeks new trick

[Ben2010]

ODSNT,
I think maybe you are like me a bit. I have a hard time getting motivated to do things. Here is the thing though, if you take the first step, youll find that it gets much easier. For example, the hardest thing about working out is making yourself go to the gym and get a membership. It isnt the actual working out. That can be fun when you get going. So next time you come up with these things that you need to do, do everything you can to just take the first step. That list I told you to keep either mentally or physically, use that as your guide. Im sure there are plenty of things on the list that you dont want to do or dont feel like doing. Force yourself to take the first step on those things and you will see that it isnt that bad. I will tell you that in my situation, there were many things that I thought were beyond my reach or just too hard to do. That wasnt the case at all. I was surprised to find that almost everything that I was worried about was way easier or cheaper than I thought it would be. You have to have an open mind when there are things you are trying to accomplish. I think MrBond is trying to get you to realize that some of these things you are saying really are things that you can change if you care enough to do so. You have to want to do it though. You can say that you are the cause of the problems, but what are YOU going to do to fix them? I like the SBT that you are working on. Thats the way to go. Dont worry about what has happened in the past, work on what YOU can change. Concentrate on yourself here and your life will be puzzle pieces that suddenly fit in to place. Thats the one thing you can be selfish about right now. You fixing yourself. Dont worry about what your W is doing right now or how to impress her or fix her. Fix you and the rest will work out.

Good Luck man.