Old dog seeks new trick

[MrBond]

"I've been thinking about what I wrote a couple of hours ago and you know, I don't think I am lazy. Well not more so than the next man/woman. I am always willing to do what W asks, without grumbling. I do a great deal round the house. I even cycle 11 miles a day to work and back when I could get the train which would be quicker and more comfortable."

That's not the point. You're not lazy for the things you WANT to door HAVE to do. Your M isn't a priority, so you didn't bother trying. Lazy.

"A pleaser perhaps, and it may even have been an unconcious strategy to keep W. But no, I'm going to withdraw the lazy bit.I'm also aware that this could be a sidetrack to head off down instead of sorting myself out. "

You may withdraw your comment, but it doesn't make the problem go away. By doing so, you're trying to minimize the problem that your W had with you. Just because YOU don't think you are something, DOESN'T mean that you're not. Your W asked you to be romantic, to take charge, etc. And you didn't do it. Actually, you're right. You're not lazy. You're selfish. Like that title better?