Twin: Thank God and praise Him for your blessings. When things slow down for you, GAL and don't stop the divorce process girlie. I ditto Figgeroni. Wow. Many of us know that these S (H & W) have many of the situations and you need to focus on healing yourself and be the best parent you can be. You can't depend on that H of yours. When he crashes he may not be able to be there for any of you and you will be the one holding the F together. In the meantime, accept his help, if little or not, and plan on being a mother and a great friend to other women/moms you should find out there to relate with when you don't have the children and you do have the children. You need a strong support group. Not just us DBing bloggers.