I believe strongly that you need to have a good old fashioned "heart to heart" talk with your wife. You need to spill your guts on what is eating at you. If you think you have already had one, then it is time for another. Pronto.
Do you know what is seen over and over on this site? It is when the betrayed comes on here and is in shock and disbelief that their spouse "suddenly" wants out.
Do you know what the BS often says to people on here?
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Why didn't they tell me they were unhappy? If they would have told me I would have done anything to change.
Having a heart to heart talk when a spouse has already decided to leave is usually not wise, however that isn't the case here.
Opening up and having a deep talk to your spouse about an issue as important as this one is to you is sometimes not only necessary, but REQUIRED.
Your wife NEEDS to know and hear how you REALLY feel. If not you are a prime candidate for an affair somewhere down the road. If that would happen, then you will be using the excuse of "you wouldn't have sex with me".. she will then wonder why you didn't just tell her so that she had a chance to make it right.
