Sex was great, part 2

[GoatGal]

Grey,

"Then I came here and the advice I get is don't change it, wait 6 months then either you'll be ok with a sexless marriage or you should leave your wife you selfish creep."

I don't think this is what anyone has said AT ALL.

And I certainly never called you a "selfish creep".

Not anything I would ever say. (Except to my H and that's a different story.)

I think you are a husband who loves his wife and is scared and frustrated with a situation he never planned for and is unprepared to deal with.

I'm just trying to give you a different perspective.
Believe it or not, I am trying to help you.

Sorry if we're getting our signals crossed.

The flip side of not trying to find a way to fix this by your actions/inactions is not just waiting six months to see if anything changes and then hanging it up.

There is a middle ground.

I think what most posters have been saying is, try and chill out a little.
Take the focus off sex for awhile, look at what's right between you.
I feel tense just reading about your frustrations... really I do.
It's too much, too frantic and it hasn't abated at all since you started posting.

Meanwhile, figure out what you can and can't live with.
Make sure you have ALL the facts before you make an irrevocable decision about your future with your W.

But--- please don't put words in my mouth.

I've got my foot in there most of the time anyway, so there's no more room.

---GG