URGENT advice needed - 3yrs separated, sky falling

[labug]

I want to add that I also have crappy stuff in my childhood, had an H who drank to much and was pretty unengaged for awhile. I was D for 3 and a half years...

I finally started making progress when I realized how much I was playing the victim and not taking responsibility for me.

I'm not saying you should or shouldn't move, but really think and don't make an emotional decision. Make on that's best for your kids and you.