Please refresh my poor nearly-50 year old brain, what did W say to you when she dropped the bomb. What were some of her issues? Were you able to glean some info from her?
She had been struggling maintaining her sobriety. 10 months sober but working any programs.
She appeared to be going through a depression but then would snap out it the next day and be happy go lucky.
When she left, we had been fighting a lot because she was disconnected from the R. She told me she "felt trapped in her mind", "Didn't love anything anymore", and "had nothing left to give". I kept trying to push her back into AA and therapy but that seemed to only push her away.
She was very sad when leaving, it wasn't angry at all.
I am. Ive been in therapy working on some codependency issues. Reading and highlighting sections in Codependant No More and reviewing with my therapist.
I am bound and determined to have to have a good day today. I have made some small, positive steps in my sitch with WAW. It feels good to have at least some movement after so long with NC.
Today I'll focus on working hard, hit the gym after work, pick D up and then do some grocery shopping.
D and I have had fun watching old Family Feud re-runs. I forgot how funny that show can be. Hopefully there's more episodes tonight.
Point taken, this is stuff I've been working on in therapy. Zero control over other people.
1. I have dated healthy women with no addictions before. 2. Dated W for 3 and half years 3. We are old classmates from high school and connected 15 years later on Facebook. We didn't know each other in high school but connected through our high school Facebook page. We slowly started posting on each other's walls and I eventually asked her out.
I am. Ive been in therapy working on some codependency issues. Reading and highlighting sections in Codependant No More and reviewing with my therapist.
Actually, I meant AlAnon or something similar.
Check for meetings in your area, those people know codependency issues.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Yes, I have been to some Alanon meetings as well. I have a hard time connecting in those meetings due to the repetitive nature of them. The first 20 minutes is spent reading the "codes and conduct of the group and reading all the steps". By the time that's over, we really only have 30 minutes or so for open discussion.
I'll try out some different groups and see if there are some other ones I can connect with.
