Attagirl, MDU!!!!!! This calls for high-fives around here. Hey, drinks are on me at St. Elmo's Fire bar. I especially liked when you stated that you wish to stay separated for a while...a smart move for a smart cookie like you!
I do think Retrouville would be timely for you and H as he's asked what it would take for him to get back into the M. As for MC, I'd do research to check out they're solution-based and grounded in Gottman theories.