Very down today, crying alot (while trying to work!!).
My not 'initiating' communication and delaying my reponses to his seems to have backfired a bit. Thought I was doing well but H seems to interpret this as my not really caring and that he is not needed by me or his children, the more happy I seem the more he seems to think that it ok for him to have an OW and to 'enjoy' his life as I 'seem' to be enjoying mine.
I think I have pushed him back towards the OW, he had stayed away from her while I was validating him and sending him messages of encouragement and initiating contact without expectation of a reply.
Don't have any idea what to do next, any suggestions?
I am GALing as best I can and 'acting as if'.
I have no expectations but think I have enabled him to be 'stuck' . He seems to have stopped trying to have relationships with much younger woman and wants the original OW back. She is single, divorced a long time, has her own income and is not dependent on anyone. She also seems like a nice person who genuinely cares about H but wants him to sort himself out and end his relationship with me. Maybe she is what he needs and I am not.
