She ended up at a fair with a group, that included OM. Told me she needed a thing for the girls and was a big group. I didn't want details, but D5 was telling me all about it. So the W sends pics of the girls from her phone, and a long explanation of needing it for them. I just said that I didn't need to know the details, but if it was romantic at all I needed to know, my boundary was anything romantic and the girls would not be exposed. Probably can't trust everything at this point, but with W being so nice in ither aspects I want to.
I said, I hope you would tell me if anything romantic so girls not exposed. The OM was a friend for a long time, and says so now. It only bothers me to the D's, they don't need any confusion right now. Am I being to weak on this, need to be more cautious, not a lot I can do for that. So hard with little kiddos, and to know what's right and wrong. I'll just stay away from phone and her for a while.
I am at the point now, that I am willing to forgive everything. I made a bunch if mistakes and can't change that, but I can no longer do anything for her. If she makes bad decisions or something to hurt the girls, I will do something then. They have never talked about meeting anyone before so kind of coming from left field here.
I am still having trouble with the codependency. I think I have to have her, makes me feel complete. But, there are also feelings of true love there. I can remember the good times and see my old wife and friend from day to day. I need super glue and mind control to get my self to stop sometimes. At least I didn't flip out over OM story from the D's. That's a step.
