Hi Daring, please understand that it really is best to keep family out of all this as much as possible. They will push and pull for resolution one way or another. It is more pressure on both you and H. (Look at how he responded, wanting to hide or run)
My advice is to only feed them the bare minimum regarding the situation. "We're working on things" or "I understand this will take some time to be resolved, and I'm ok with that". <<<stuff like that... and then change the subject. If necessary, you can explain how you are following a "time and space" plan that you believe to be best right now, and hope that they understand and can do the same.
Remember, if they see you are doing well they are more likely to relax too. So, in some respect, you have to "fake it 'til you make it" with them too! Seriously, nothing good can come from getting family involved.
Having said that, you do need one or two people you can confide in who will keep it all confidential. Also who can listen objectively without inserting their opinion or telling you (or H!) what to do. Do you have someone like this?
Use this week wisely and focus on you. Take good care of yourself, do some nice things for yourself. Remember, you (and family) cannot fix H, so try not to spend your time focused on that.
Yes, I know how difficult this can be, and you will have tough moments or even days. But when you focus on the things you can control, you will continue to get stronger every day.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
