mlc rut

[pbetra]

Thx for this AJM. I had not really thought of this 'other aspect', but you are right.

We were not friends when his insults & nastiness began about 4 months ago (and H can be brutal, rough! (words), hurtful & crude - it doesn't matter how hard it hurt me - 'I just got it'.

I nearly kicked him out one night, after he 'set me up'. Took me out one day, bought lunch & treated me nicely all day because he knew there would be deception that night. It was hurtful because we had all come from a lovely family vacation & I had no idea about what was really developing (this was earlier stage of H's MLC, so I did not recognize it or know anything about it).
Anyway, the next day, I thought of my child (who is not yet over recent major changes & is still affected).

Being under the same roof did lead to more civilty between us eventually. I also began to understand that there was more to his actions - his misfortunes & background had caught up w/him, translated through MLC.

It's a double edge sword to live w H - he really fluctuates re mood & behaviour. This was the reason for my wondering how spouses manage (!!) /live with MLCers.

However, there are 2 sides to everything! And everyone, like their situation is different. I know that it can go either way b/cuz of how it affects me. However, 'my take care of me goals' are not yet mature & still very much in their infancy. I will have to wait to see if that will work & distract me enough to live under same roof (esp for child). To be continued' ... LOL

Thx again AJM.
Take care, p