No, I have never been unfaithful. Simply wanted her to know that we can start building from trust
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The point I'm trying to make is not to make yourself sound like there's some reason she's not been able to trust you. This isn't about her trust in you, and you know it. And she can't give you trust, she has to earn it. True, you can't watch over her 24/7, but if she gives any indication of wanting to work on the M.........it will be her place to prove you can trust her. But she is nowhere ready to even discuss what it would take to reconcile. At this time, she's not interested.
Maybe you should read again MWD's section in her DR book about 180's. What may be a complete opposite action for another person wouldn't be for you. And vice-versa.
If you are still practicing your old habits of carrying her highness on a feather pillow and cleaning her house, cooking, etc. b/c you want to spoil her........I suggest you evaluate how that worked out for you. Three different times in seven years she has told you she was unhappy. Maybe she was bored, IDK. But if you did everything, what did she do with her time? You are nuts if you continue on with it. I promise you, she does not respect you as a man for serving her as a houseboy.
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I guess in a way, go silent go dark. Trying to accept now that patience perhaps is the key. And I know I must GAL and detach detach detach.
180's make you Mr. Mean Guy, but going dark is okay? Going kind of dark for a day or two doesn't usually work well if you can't stop yourself with the other stuff. But yes, if you think you can do it, go for it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Going kind of dark for a day or two doesn't usually work well if you can't stop yourself with the other stuff. But yes, if you think you can do it, go for it.