Hi WH, In my M, I have always been the one (over the last few years especially) that took the kids to all their functions, went to school meetings, even took my D shopping for her prom dress! All their friends parents know me well from my being at all the school functions, birthday parties, plays, etc. Just yesterday my D went to a friends event and her mom invited me to go out to dinner after. My W would never have gone, probably wouldn't have been invited since she hasn't ever been around. I tried over the last year or more to get her to be more involved, go to things with my D and other parents. Even when she went she just never seemed to want to warm up to the other parents. She had her new friends at her work and they were the only ones who matter to her.
Now that she is moving out, she will have to do these things. She will need to learn to be there for my D14. To take her to her events, her friends houses, have some kind of relationship with the other parents. Your H needs to learn to do this as well. My W is showing all the "lets be friends" signs that your H is. How they can think you can be friends with someone who could betray us like they have is beyond me.
Let him learn how to do these things on his own. Time for him to face up to just what he has done to you and his kids. He destroyed a family. He hurt those that counted on him the most for his own "happiness" and selfish, childish "wants". Time for him to face the consequences of his actions and learn what having what he thinks he wanted so badly is going to cost!
