When you are focused on yourself, you are "accidentally" showing confidence in yourself. And that feeling helps *YOUR* PMA. And your H is responding to THAT. It is attractive to him. OTOH, when you start focusing too much on your situation and you start to let the details get to you ... or when your H isn't moving at your pace ... you start to feel negative. And THAT is what he will respond to.
You've got it exactly right, IMO. Keep focusing on yourself. YOU are what's drawing him back. Fight those insecurities as much and as often as possible.
Then, when your H shows *through his actions* that he's ready to be back in, you'll be able to share and discuss your non-negotiables.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
