It looks positive. You did really good here...by keeping things light and positive. Sure takes time for WAS to warm up. Not sure about softening up as I believe W's wall is still up.
I have over analyzed every conversation with my H. It is definitely a positive but don't put too much thought into it. I do that to myself over and over again. Have a good conversation one day and then 2 days later he won't respond to me. My IC said H feels 'safe' talking to me now because I haven't brought up our R and am not doing "all the wrong things".
Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96
S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)
BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since
Newbies here have this mistaken notion that if they don't care about the WAS, that they've 'moved on.' Not true.
When one moves on, it is when their thoughts, feelings, actions are not tied to the WAS. For me, 10 years on, I think MUCH less of Ms. Wonka and only wish her well. I've dated, moved, changed jobs, bought a new car, etc. So in due course, you'll be at that place whether you reconcile with W or not.
Time is a great friend to have on your side. What one makes of it is entirely within their control. See?
You can be friendly to W without being best buds at this stage and it shows through your recent text exchange. I think it is just right...not too cold, not too hot. Goldilocks is happy.
Each situation is different that requires a different set of actions. It isn't always a one size fits all.
In your situation, you were engaged and ready to get M. So this requires a different set of responses. You need to remind W about the good times, your good qualities, and that you're the real catch here. I'm thinking W is taking a step back and re-evaluating her view of marriage in general which, to me, is a good move on her part.
Marriage is a huge undertaking and one needs to be absolutely certain about jumping into it. You two have had one failed marriage so it requires some sensitivity on both parts for you certainly don't want a second divorce on the Life Tally sheet. Right?
looks pretty innocent so far.
Is she going to try anywhere else?