What is the status of W now? Is she still involved with the OM?
The reason why W appears angry and cold is to maintain the distance between the two of you as she senses, rightly so, that you want a reconciliation. Those pesky WAS noses!!! Very sharp indeed. Try not to take it personally because those types of actions are a reflection of their inner fear of going back to the same ol', same ol' M.
So use this time and space wisely to work on YOU. Keep making the changes for you. Suppose W gets hit by a car tomorrow (no, it won't happen...just a hypothetical), would you stop and drop all of your changes because she isn't around any longer? Do the changes because you WANT to, not because you HAVE TO. See the difference?
As for the friends, you need to remember to give too. A good friendship requires a lot of give and take. Why not invite them over too? Also look into Meet-Ups...tons of fun stuff there! Why not volunteer in your local community? My late father had wonderful hospice volunteers come over and built a new deck. Man, Dad was sooo happy.
At some point, you'll need to re-think your approach with W's phone calls. You're going to have to take some of her phone calls. When talking with W, be sure not to engage in R talks or take a very hard line approach. Sometimes you do need to re-build your connection with W. Open up some and allow some calls.
It is not all or nothing proposition here. By taking this stance, you're hurting any prospects for a R.
